Friday, February 17, 2017

A College Bar Called "The Chug"... What Could Go Wrong?

College was great, and I think it was greater for me for one specific reason.  I'd really never been anywhere else.  I grew up pretty sheltered and other than a trip to Florida once, Missouri, Illinois, and Indiana once to visit Ball State’s campus, that was it.  I often say, if you grow up in Iowa, anywhere you go after that is fun.  So, for me, Ball State was the most exciting and diverse place I had ever been. There were people from all over the country there. I was friends with people from New Jersey and Wisconsin and California. It’s hard to make a college experience unique because, for the most part, it’s teenagers doing dumb stuff while drunk. And while I talk about partying a lot, I remember getting very offended when people acted surprised to see me in the library. I was in the library all the time, but I hid out on the top floor because they’d make a party even in the library. It was just as social of a place as the dining hall. There used to be these solid wood cubicles that were meant to divide the desks for a greater sense of privacy. We'd take some breaks from studying, and we'd get up and do flips while holding onto the sides. I could do a pretty good gainer layout step out holding onto these cubicles.  My best friend Robin and our football playing giant friend Steve used to do the moves from Dirty Dancing. Robin would run into his arms and jump while he held onto her hips and it was a vision straight from the movie poster. And this was when we were supposed to be studying in the library.

            Needless to say, we were pretty crazy. I was probably not unlike every other college student, except that I was an athlete, and more specifically, a gymnast, which came in handy when I was trying to get into bars before I turned 21. Butterfields was one of the bars in town and on Thursday nights in the spring, everyone flocked to Butterfields and danced all night long. There were other bars closer to campus, like the Chug, but Butterfields was somewhat nicer and drew in the juniors and seniors. The Chug was basically a glorified dungeon. The floor was just concrete and the toilets were always flooding. There was always a layer of fluid on the floor that was either wet or in the stages of drying, so it was sticky. We just assumed it was a whole lot of spilled beer. Years later, when my friend Zork, the football player, got married, we were all together again reminiscing and I found out that that layer of fluid I thought was beer was actually pee.  The football players used to bet each other who could pee under the bar next without getting caught.  The entire time, I mean for four years, we thought we were sloshing around in spilled beer and liquor, but we were wading in spilled beer, liquor and the football players’ urine.


Rather than get trapped in the Chug, we went to Butterfields. We couldn’t get in the legitimate way, however, for our first few years of school, but we wanted to go dancing. Butterfields had a patio in the back that was open during the spring time and it had a large wooden fence around the perimeter. Since I didn’t have a fake ID and I seldom borrowed one from an older friend or a friend’s older sister, we scaled the fences. Butterfields was further from campus, so we’d drive there together, all dolled up with our 80’s hair and miniskirts, and walk to the back of the bar. Since I was much taller than all of my gymnastics teammates, I didn’t have much trouble grabbing on to the top of the fence and hoisting myself up. That was perhaps one of the immediate and useful real world applications for gymnastics. Getting over in my miniskirt was more challenging, but because I could hold up my own body weight, I could keep my knees together as I brought one leg onto the fence at a time. I sat there, perched like a supermodel, until someone came over and readied themselves to catch me on my descent. I never got in trouble.

            The fun would commence with the scaling of the fence. From there, it was on!  We would dance, dance and dance.  Yes, we partied a lot and drank to excess often but that's not what made the fun. Partying to us was if there was a lot of dancing happening and people getting crazy.  We didn't always drink to make this happen.  Sometimes we would justify that we had to drink because our bodies were in so much pain from gymnastics we'd only be able to dance all night if we were a little numb from drinking.  However, during season we stayed completely sober. People just thought we were drunk because we were so uninhibited.  In general, gymnasts can really dance.  It's a huge component of the sport.  When we could go out and get an amazing cardio workout all the while, having a raucous time, we were in!    It wasn’t like Butterfields was the greatest club in the world, not by a long shot. But at the time, we didn't really know any better.  All we needed to have a good time was a DJ that would play the music we loved, a few fun people in the crowd and each other. 

In those days, at least at Ball State it wasn't like getting caught underage drinking resulted in severe discipline. That’s the main reason I never tried pot.  We didn’t get tested in gymnastics, but I never felt that pot would be worth losing my scholarships over if I ever got caught. So I just drank. 


I recently attended a presentation on alcohol at the National Strength and Conditioning Association's Strength Coaches conference.  Interestingly, all the data points to the fact that college athletes drink more than non-athletes.  It is just considered part of the culture.  Add to the fact that those that binge drink in college are more likely to have problems with alcohol later in life as well, drinking to excess isn't a great idea no matter your age.  More on that next week...

Monday, January 2, 2017

Texas, Waffle House and a Navy Seal

(This post picks up after our October 21 blog post.)

During my sophomore year at Ball State, I became friends with a Navy Seal when he was an assistant volunteer coach. I was 19 and he was 32. We had been good friends throughout the year and I fell in love with him that spring. He was graduating and had an internship in Dallas, Texas. I wanted to travel with him and try to make this relationship work out. Fortuitously, I had a friend from high school who was living in Fort Worth, Texas and he invited me to stay with him for a few weeks. I left Indiana with $30.00 in cash and a $42.00 check from the Waffle House where I worked. I quit my job there, but I was too embarrassed to go back, so I had the Navy Seal return my uniform for me.  Many years later, I relayed this story to one of my Pilates instructors.  I'll never forget her dead panned face as she sarcastically said, "So you were scared and it took the Navy Seals for you to return your Waffle House uniform?"  She then fell to her knees on the floor with laughter. 
Ahh, the Waffle House.

I rocked that uniform.

None of the patrons at my Waffle House looked like this...


At the time though, I ultimately wanted to keep tabs on my Navy Seal, who had just broken up with his girlfriend.  I didn’t want them to get back together. However, this was the logic I used at the time to rationalize the trip to myself:  I was 19, and in Indiana, you had to be 21 to serve alcohol, so I couldn’t work in any of the upscale restaurants like Chi-Chi’s.  Yes, upscale restaurants like Chi-Chi's.  Since I didn’t want to go back to Clinton, I figured that I could work in Texas, where I could legally serve alcohol and therefore make more money as a waitress at a good restaurant. That was the excuse I used while I followed the Navy Seal to Texas. Within two days of arriving, I got a job at Red Lobster.  But in addition to all that, I had never lived anywhere else and I was just excited to get out and go somewhere. There was no planning, clearly, as I only had $72.00 in my pocket when I left. I never told my parents that I went, though. I knew that if I told them, they would have flipped out and forbidden me to go. I decided it was better to ask for forgiveness after the fact than it was to ask for permission. I was down in Texas for about six of the ten week total.  My high school friend that rented the apartment went back to Clinton for the Fourth of July, and I believe he told a few people I was staying with him. It’s a small town, so I’m sure my mother heard of the rumor.  Shortly after he came back from Iowa, my mom and I had an interesting conversation.  I could tell by what she was saying she knew I wasn't in Muncie anymore.  I finally confessed, because I was obviously caught.  She didn't completely flip out but they no longer gave me any spending money the rest of my college career. 

            The friend I was staying with didn’t really have a place for me to sleep. There was the bedroom that he and his girlfriend shared and then there was a bunk bed that was just the bed frame and springs. So I slept on the floor or on the couch for the entire time I was there. The Navy Seal and his friend Herman had made fun of me for leaving Indiana with only 72 bucks, but the apartment they were meant to be staying in turned out to be a real dump. There were feral cats everywhere as well as roaches. It was in such disrepair that he had to leave and for a time, he had no place to stay. I felt bad for them but a little vindicated for myself.  Navy Seal and Herman hassled and teased me relentlessly the entire trip from Indiana to Texas that I'd be sleeping in a slum and be homeless.  Although I slept between a couch and a floor, I was staying in an otherwise very nice apartment with a pool and a beach volleyball court. They told me then that I was staying in the Taj Mahal compared to what they had.  Eventually, my Navy Seal moved back in with his girlfriend without saying anything. He came over once to my place by himself and the second time he visited me, he brought his ex-girlfriend and Herman and a bunch of his other friends with him. That’s when he told me things were over between us and that he was going back to his ex.  What was worse, he came to the apartment with her in tow and she didn’t know that we had been together.

            I was upset of course, but I don’t remember sitting around and moping over him. I’m sure he cared for me, but I suspect his plan was to spend time with me and if things worked out with his ex in Dallas, then he could just go back to her. If things had not worked out, he still had me. I was there for 10 weeks and it was over by the third. You have to laugh about it or otherwise you’d cry.


Having grown up in Clinton, Iowa and gone to college in Muncie, Indiana, being in Fort Worth was a big city for me. I’m sure I was devastated at the time, but I sprang back with a 19 year- old's desire to have fun. The people that worked at that Red Lobster with me were from all over the place. There was a Mormon from Utah, a guy from Kansas and a Muslim from Egypt. It sounds like a bad joke, but we all hung out and had a great time. So I might have lost the Navy Seal, but I wasn’t too heartbroken about it. I got to live in Texas for ten weeks.   Living successfully in Texas, in other words, getting a job within two days, making friends and having a good time was a wonderful confidence booster.  It was a very risky proposition and it all worked out for me.  It reduced my fear of the unknown and helped me to realize that I was capable of pulling off things many people, especially my parents, would deem dangerous and crazy.  Plus I got to stay in a Taj Mahal apartment.  Ha! 

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Kimberly Sheheen- January Star of the Month


How long have you been taking Pilates?

I was familiar with Pilates and had taken classes in the past.  I started with 15 to Fit in March 2015. 

What do you like about 15 to Fit?

I like that 15 to Fit offers a variety of levels, classes and incorporates new exercises into the routine on a regular basis.

Has your body changed since beginning Pilates?

My body has definitely changed since beginning Pilates.

What have you done to achieve these results?

To achieve my results, I have committed to going consistently.  It has just become a part of my schedule.

What has 15 to Fit done to help you?

I play tennis as much as possible which can be very hard on your body. When I started at 15 to Fit, I had planter fasciitis in both of my feet. Since staring, I no longer have plantar fasciitis and I feel much stronger and more balanced. 

What would you say to someone who has a hard time sticking to an exercise routine?


I would tell anyone that is having a difficult time sticking to an exercise routine that it's important to make time for yourself. It's as easy to schedule a work out as it is any other appointments. When you start seeing results and make working out a part of your lifestyle, you won't want to miss it. 

Sadie Roberts- Doughten- February Star of the Month


How long have you been taking Pilates?

I have been at 15 to Fit since August, and I did some Pilates about six or seven years ago.

What do you like about 15 to Fit?

I like that the exercises change and it’s not the same thing over and over.  I also like the instructors.

Has your body changed since beginning Pilates?

Yes, my strength and flexibility have definitely improved.  That is very important to me since I teach dance.  When I started Pilates, I had planter fasciitis.  However, since I began doing Pilates, that went away.  I also sleep much better!

What have you done to achieve these results?

I consistently take class three to four times per week.  I also do some Pilates at home, and I’m being much more conscious of my diet.

What has 15 to Fit done to help you?

The instructors at 15 to Fit help me stay motivated and have encouraged me when I’m struggling.  The instructors also make it fun, and that makes getting to class much easier.

What would you say to someone who has a hard time sticking to an exercise routine?


I would tell them to try Pilates.  I’ve found that the reason many people find it hard to stick to an exercise routine is because they get bored.  At 15 to Fit, it isn’t boring, and they make it easy to modify exercises.  I’d also say pace yourself, and just stick with it.  You’ll begin to see change within a month. 

Friday, December 16, 2016

T.J. Singla- April Star of the Month


How long have you been taking Pilates?

I began taking Pilates in October of last year, but I became more consistent after the first of this year.

What do you like about 15 to Fit?

I feel like I really connect to Pilates.  I love the instructors at 15 to Fit and feel like part of the community.  It is different every time, and I feel like I get a full body workout.  Honestly, though, I really just really enjoy the exercise itself.

How has your body changed since beginning Pilates?

I see and feel strength improvements.  I have muscle tone where I’ve never had muscle tone before.  I’m stronger in my core and just stronger overall.  I can tell that I’ve lost some inches, but to me that is less exciting than feeling stronger.

What have you done to achieve these results?

First, I took privates to make sure I liked it and understood the machines.  Now, I make sure I come to class 2-3 times per week.  I also met another classmate and now I feel like I have an accountability partner.  I’m committed now, and my body feels bad when I don’t go! 

What has 15 to Fit done to help you?

The instructors have helped me feel more confident.  I like that it is a small studio and it’s easy to get to know other clients. 

You went through a period where you stopped coming for a few months, but now you are back with a vengeance!  What motivated you to come back?

I think I just realized that I will always be a busy working mom with four kids, so I could make a decision to either take control or just be lazy.  I made the decision to take a personal interest in taking care of myself so I can also take care of my family.  I’ve become personally invested in my own fitness.  I physically feel bad when I don’t go to Pilates, so now I’m committed.

What would you say to someone who has a hard time sticking to an exercise routine?


I would share my specific results with them like the muscle tone in my arms.  Even my kids are noticing it!  I’d also encourage them to stick with it long enough to feel confident.  Give it at least a month and see how your body reacts.  Realize that you may be uncomfortable for a while, but you will see results!  

Thursday, December 15, 2016

Jennifer McGraw- May Star of the Month


How long have you been taking Pilates?

I started one year ago.  I only did three months at first then I stopped.  Then in December, I started back consistently.

What do you like about 15 to Fit?

I like that I get individualized attention while still in a class environment.

How has your body changed since beginning Pilates?

I’ve become really strong overall, but especially in my core.  I feel like if your core isn’t strong, then the rest of your body doesn’t seem to follow.  At this point in my life, it’s not simply appearance that is important to me.  I want to be happy and healthy. 

What have you done to achieve these results?

I come to class without fail at least three times per week.

What has 15 to Fit done to help you?

I am now 34, and I had been exercising in a big box gym since I was about 16 or 17 years old.  When I decided to branch out and try Pilates to mix things up, that was a big change for me.  Once I went away from the big gym and came to the smaller studio at 15 to Fit, I found that I was able to get a better quality full-body workout.  The instructors have also been able to modify exercises for me, as needed.

You went through a period where you stopped coming for a few months, but now you are back with a vengeance!  What motivated you to come back?

I realized that as you get older, it’s not as easy to change your body.  I had been working hard initially and nothing was happening.  Then I realized that I wasn’t making the necessary changes at home with food and in my daily lifestyle.  Back in December, I met with a nutritionist who showed me what I was eating versus what I should be eating.  This made me reevaluate my eating habits, and I began telling myself “NO” when it came to certain foods.  It took about two months to get on the right path with my eating habits, and then I was able to reengage with Pilates.

What would you say to someone who has a hard time sticking to an exercise routine?


I’d tell them that I’ve been there myself.  I wasn’t seeing changes in those first few months, and I got discouraged.  You just have to stick with it.  We live in a world of instant gratification, and body changes don’t happen overnight.  If you’re doing all the right things and being consistent, just be patient and your hard work will pay off!

Tina Grella- June Star of the Month


How long have you been taking Pilates?

I started back in January of this year.

What do you like about 15 to Fit?

I love the instructors!  The classes are small, so you can get one-on-one instruction.  The instructors focus on proper form so you don’t get injured.   I also love that it is a close-knit community. 

You were already fit and active when you began coming to 15 to Fit.  So what made you choose Pilates?

I was having knee issues and wanted to do a full-body workout that was low impact.  I have a friend that has a reformer, and she said I had to try it.

How has your body changed since beginning Pilates?

I’ve definitely become stronger and leaner.  I have more core strength.  Also, I don’t wake up feeling sore in the mornings.  However, I do also believe that diet plays a huge part in that, too.

What have you done to achieve these results?

I come to class quite often- typically five days a week.  At first, I was only coming about two times per week, but I decided I wanted to do even more.

What has 15 to Fit done to help you?

They help me get in a great workout routine and really hold me accountable.

What would you say to someone who has a hard time sticking to an exercise routine?


I’d say if you’re really serious about your goals, put your all into it and make it happen.  Stop wasting your time and money.  Find a way to get over your obstacles and do it!